What could show up in my life if I say "No"
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Frankly speaking I cringe when I think about saying No to my boss.
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I have an interesting job, good position as well but I’m very busy. To the busy person everyone (mainly boss) keeps dumping more and more on
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On one hand, it seems that if my boss needs something that to be done, he used to give it to me, not to someone who is less busy... I have no problem to say NO to my colleagues but to the boss it is not easy...
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What do you mean??
I had the same problem that you are talking about. I told the truth and had a talk with the man I worked for, and things worked out for me. They give things to the busy people because they know you will get the job done and it will be correct. Then you have the lazy one's who go though life by the seat of their pants and get away with it, at least for awhile but it comes round and gets them. Most I have seen loose their jobs in the end for not producing. It seems that you are in the professional world like me. I know how you feel . There are only so many hours in the day and it can be very stressful. You have to decide but do tell the truth. If you feel you want to test the waters then check around before you have the talk but do not tell anyone because that could get you fired. You have to keep this to yourself. You have a good head on your shoulders and I know you can think more about this before you make a big step.
OdpovedaťOdstrániťYour friend, Gloria
Looks like some diplomacy is called for between you and your boss. You can do the work Virea and you do so wothout question. However you cant take on to much all the time. Your boss seems to know he can depend on you. If you took on to much and it was to get you down or make you sick, it would be you boss who would suffer. I believe its time for a frank talk with your boss and let him see that you are not invincible. Who would he rather keep? You or those who are lazy. or you Virea,,,??
OdpovedaťOdstrániťGood luck Virea.....
Frank
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I have experienced the same as you and from it, I would say you have two options: 1. You take the initiative of having a face-to-face talk with your boss and you diplomatic, yet frankly, tell him how heavy the burden on your shoulders has got. He is likely to understand or not and he may emphasise that he relies on you, only. In this case, you better consider the possibility of quitting that job, after thinking carefully about the pros and cons of such a decision.
OdpovedaťOdstrániť2. You tell nothing to him and very gradually you start slowing down the pace of the work he asks you... he would then be wondering about it and would probably ask you whether there is something wrong with you. At that time you would have the talks with him.
I totally ignore the profile of your boss as well as I have no idea how you are at ease with him. In my personal case, and you know well I have always worked with foreigners, whenever I had something that worried me, I never had any talks with boss in the office, but would invite him for lunch, during which I would tell him my feelings about my job position. It had always worked like that but you know, the foreigners I worked with were very peculiar ones, LOL! Think first and then act as you feel it will be the best way... Don't make haste... it never helps... on the contrary, makes the things getting worse. Good luck, Viera!
To your question 'May I say no'. I think you, with a broad smile, may say 'I will do it when I have time'.
OdpovedaťOdstrániťIf she were my boss, I would never tell her "NO" hahahahahaahahahahah
OdpovedaťOdstrániťDear Boss:
OdpovedaťOdstrániťThank for the trust that you have placed in me to do all these projects. I appreciate it. I want to make sure that I have appropriate time to do an excellent job for you with these projects, so with this new job request you have for me I am not sure I would have enough time to do a good job. And I don't want to do a bad job. Please advise me on what I should do?
If she were my boss, I would never tell her "NO" hahahahahaahahahahah
OdpovedaťOdstrániťYou have carefully read the 6 comments above. You have reread them. Your friends in most of the comments have covered the problem with good and viable solutions, based on their experiences or those of others close to them.
OdpovedaťOdstrániťI would say the answer is in you. You found it on the island of Capri. You know your worth to the company. You know that gives you the right to start the next season off with a pre-conference that includes the boss. Get him to call it. I just know he also looks to you for advice and input. Make your statement about how this season can be THEE most efficent and smooth of any season before. Most in attendance should agree and applaud you FOR POINTING THESE THINGS OUT, including the boss.
As I pointed out in my blog yesterday, men and women are different in handling problems. You commented "maybe you are right". Did just discussing this problem help you, or did a solution surface? I pray for you success in all you say and do! You have what it takes and they know it!!! Three
Viera = efficient! Have a sunshiny day, full of love and happiness. Three
OdpovedaťOdstrániťHOW COME ALL YOUR other friends are smart?
OdpovedaťOdstrániťexcept me, I am the only dummy I think??????
It takes courage to say "no", but people admire and respect courage.
OdpovedaťOdstrániťI also know that your boss already has a great respect for you. Therefore, he knows that if you say "no", there is a very good reason. - Learning when to say "no" is a difficult lesson.
I agree with Zzerozz when she says "learning when to say 'n0' is a difficult lesson", as finding the proper timing to say it and how to say it requires a special feeling... I believe you can easily get it...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťThanks belita. However this 'zzerozz' is a he!
OdpovedaťOdstrániťDeeply sorry for my involuntary mistake.... Very sorry but impossible to guess from your screen name it standed for a 'he' or a 'she'. Pls accept my sincere apologies... never intended to be offensive..
OdpovedaťOdstrániťHey! I wasn't offended! It's fine!
OdpovedaťOdstrániťOf course there was no way you could know.
Vera, my dear friend. You have been in my thoughts and I prayed for you. I know you will make the right decision. Like I said you have a good head on your shoulders and will think all through and make the right decision. You did not jump but are thinking and asking for opinions. Only you dear friend has the answer. Hugs and Blessings - Gloria
OdpovedaťOdstrániťI don't have idea for you....
OdpovedaťOdstrániťBut, hope you always enjoy, ok?
Don't work to hard!
Take care,
~ Hugz :o)
My dear friend Gloria, thank you so much for your wise words...I'll keep all my thoughts only for myself, but I have to make a decision very soon...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťHugs and kisses...
Thank you dear Franki for your support...I'll only hope that my boss has the same opinion...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťHave a nice evening ....
you have always a good advices for me dear Belita...I thought also that the best way for a talk will be perhaps by the next conference, away from our office...but at first I have to find a resolution...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťHugs and kisses...
The problem in our job is that some issue must be finished in time...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťI believe you Vart... :-)
OdpovedaťOdstrániťThank you very much Iggyi for such a diplomatic arrangement... I'll surely used it...There is no other way...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťThanks for coming here...
One thing we know about successful people is they have learned to say "no". Actually that princile you have to know from Jack Canfield's seminars. But I know that it is not easy to know when it is the right time for it.
OdpovedaťOdstrániťI'm sure about you that you'll find a good solution.
The best of luck dear Viera!
I received this mail from Jack Canfield yesterday:
OdpovedaťOdstrániťDear Viera,
Have you learned how to say no?
Today' I'll share a few strategies with you for saying "no" with grace. You'll be surprised how liberating the process can be!
Dedicated to Your Success,
Jack Canfield
Lucky you are, Viera!
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