A pain - I do not mean a physical pain as a fall from a bicycle, or from roller skates or tripping over the corner of the bed. I'm talking about the pain, the shooting pain inside which brings tears to the eyes and grips the heart. Pain for which there is no pill or ointment to cure. I'm talking about the pain which others cause us, or the pain which we cause to others and for which we cannot find an excuse.
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How can we avoid the pain which churns our conscience?
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Pain as if a careless surgeon’s scalpel has carved into our souls. Pain which others can’t see, but nonethaless is like a disease in our inside.
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Some say that such pain is good for us, because it leads us further and helps us overcome our weaknesses and we could build a stronger self.
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Friedrich Nietzsche once said: "What does not kill you, it will make you stronger."
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Is this really true?
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Others say that the pain could overcome you. Rob you of the joy to which you have a right. What a life is it if you cannot rejoice in it and be glad each day, and if someone deprives you of that joy you have to defend yourself - strike, if necessary, before you are hurt by them.
But I don’t want that this power to kill a part of me, by someone who may reach out a hand to me for asking for help.
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"Even though – sometimes for me nobody helped at critical times. I've had to overcome the difficulty by myself."
What is the right way to bring peace to my soul?
Who knows?
I believe everyone has the right for peace to the inner being. The pain your talking about is so cruel. I wish I could answer you, but unfortunately I can't. As I in a way look for that peace.
OdpovedaťOdstrániťDear Viera, I can understand your problems.
OdpovedaťOdstrániťAnyway, being scared of getting hurt is normal.
But believe me, there's always a way to laugh and
love again even when you think you can't move on.
Bring your own thoughts to yourself be positive and
even laughter connects you with others
We all have had or still have our pains... Obstacles, barriers we always face now an then... the more we overcome, stronger we become and with the strength achieved we can make the most of the joys that are brought to us...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťDear Matilda, I know that the path to inner peace is not simple or short. You cannot just wake up one day and decide you are going to have inner peace from that point forward. It is a process, a journey that needs to be appreciated every step of the way...and I have to learn it too...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťThank you for your thoughts...
I know, this won’t happen in a day, but I'll keep working on myself.
OdpovedaťOdstrániťAny time I catch myself wondering what someone says or thinks about me , I'll just make a point to change my mind to something else, to be free from the opinions of others....Thank you dear Regina...
Yes dear Belita, everyone has a certain amount of emotional baggage they carry with them everywhere. The idea of finding inner peace is to offload this baggage so you can feel light, healthy, vibrant, free and maybe one day even enlightened...But it is not easy ...I still cary my baggage with me...:-)
OdpovedaťOdstrániťYes dear Belita, everyone has a certain amount of emotional baggage they carry with them everywhere. The idea of finding inner peace is to offload this baggage so you can feel light, healthy, vibrant, free and maybe one day even enlightened...But it is not easy ...I still cary my baggage with me...:-)
OdpovedaťOdstrániťI appreciate your visit here very much...
http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/inner-peace/seven-simple-steps-to-inner-peace/
OdpovedaťOdstrániťreading this may help you a little bit
laughter and Music..does cure a lot.every person is an individual..and finds their own way x[hugs]this is lovely music Viera
OdpovedaťOdstrániťThank you for your visit and for your support...I'll read it definitely...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťThanks a lot dear Caroline...I cannot buy peace; I must know how to manufacture it within...
OdpovedaťOdstrániť...by the way it is one of my favourites Verdi's opera...
Some pain is harder to deal with than other kinds, either because of its nature, intensity, or the lack of available recourse. While pain, like pleasure can guide us in life, you are right that it can disable us, too; sometimes lingering long after any good can come from it. All pain is in the mind, of course, and sometimes our mind does not even allow us to feel it while we still need to act. People can arrive in hospitals with serious trauma but feel nothing until their need to act urgently recedes. And people can experience pain long after trauma has healed. This latter phenomenon is what we really need to address because it can last for years. In such cases it might help to help our mind to see that the threat is no longer there. That the event is in the past. That it can and should move on. It's not always possible, though. Sometimes we have to settle for small steps, just getting through the day one small step and task after another until, in time, the mind is at peace again. People can help I think. And books and music with a sympathetic mood but hopeful sentiment. So take care of yourself, Viera, we may be our best nurse in these things.
OdpovedaťOdstrániťDear Viera, my english is not good....but, I want to tell you something.......
OdpovedaťOdstrániťLife is this, what we have everyday, with steppy stones and with sunny days............you are right ,pain, make us stronger. I am 63 years old ....living with lough,joy, pain, sorrows..... but at the end you turn your head to the past and see what a woman of strenght you are. Capable to cope with all that life had bring to you through the years.
Time take away the pain, in the moment you think is destroying you, bad times...bring big joys too.........just wait.
People is not bad, sometimes are wrong, and don't have time to see the being.......they just live......
selfish may be..but not bad.
Think you are very young. your life is just starting......start from the light, don't keep in your heart this pain for longer........see the wonder in every day........
Much love , sorry my dear, I need better english.
hugsssss.ivonne
where is that music playing in your site and how could I stop it?
OdpovedaťOdstrániťthanks Viera
Thank you very much for visiting Mark and sharing your thoughts...I started to read your book "Under the sun" and I like it very much...Also there I could find the answer to my question :
OdpovedaťOdstrániť"By all means think positively, though,
as experiments have shown that you'll be more likely
to succeed in life, anyway, because you'll be more
open to the opportunities around you. I've got to work
more on that myself.
And, finally, don’t forget to think positively and to
stay in touch…"
Yes I agree with you and I promise - I will not forget to think positively...
Keep in touch
You are most welcome Ivonne. Your visits here make me very happy... and don't worry, your English is very good... and dear Ivonne I'm not very young...because this small child by the lake which looks like a doll is my granddaughter...
OdpovedaťOdstrániť"The time take away the pain"...yes I agree...
The time old saying “Mind your own business” is based in wisdom. In the fact we can only change ourselves and it is not for us to judge the way anyone else lives their lives...any judgment we make is actually really related to ourselves anyway.
Therefore we don’t have to waste precious time or energy on what others are doing with their lives, and learn not to take anything personally...
I'll try to see the wonder in every day...
Much love and a big hugs dear Ivonne...
sorry Mik if it disturb you... simply switch the sound on your PC off, please...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťThanks dear friend , Ive never thought you are grandmother, then, my answer is all the way round.....hahahah.
OdpovedaťOdstrániťI live in Chile, South America, we are latin, then, if you have a friend you live their pain, and live their joy too, Its a way to share everything, We cant live others life , but we can hold their hands in need an all the time.
Share is the most important word in the whole world my dear.
My life has been good because always good friends share bad or good times with me......
in spite of I had very bad times too, very sad ones, and people make me suffer many times.
But after all..........I like to be alive and I like to be so brave in the past and coped with what i had to live.
When I answer really answer with my heart...........
Much, much love my friend from one granma to other....hgahahahha
hugssssssss.ivonne
My dear Ivonne...thank you very, very much for your thoughts... I'm very happy to know another grandma...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťA big hugs on your way... From Slovakia to Chile...
Have a nice time...Thank you to have an opportunity to be your friend...
Thanks for the sharing. I too feel pain. Let's liven up our journey here and ease the pain some. I have always truly appreciated your friendship and caring. Sometimes I think of you as more than my friend. Hope that is okay. Warm hug.
OdpovedaťOdstrániťViera (great big warm smile), I do not know what to say...Viera, I do
OdpovedaťOdstrániťnot have any easy answers...Niece, I only know that we do care about
you...we care so much...It hurts us when you are sad...*warm smile*...___
Uncle Leo
"I pull you from your tower, take away your pain, show you all the beauty you posess if you'd only let yourself believe"
OdpovedaťOdstrániť-Sarah Mclachlan
My dearv uncle... in our life people may have different ways of letting me know that they care about me. One person may give me a big hug whereas another person might gently tease me. A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to me fairly often and, in general, know what's going on in my life and act interested about it...thank you very much...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťMy dear uncle... in our life people may have different ways of letting us know that they care about us. One person may give us a big hug whereas another person might gently tease us. A big clue that someone cares is that they talk to us fairly often and, in general, know what's going on in our life and act interested about it...thank you very much...
OdpovedaťOdstrániť*great big smile*...Niece, you're
OdpovedaťOdstrániťwelcome...Viera, yes you are...
*great big fun happy smile*...___
Uncle Leo
A big hugs back to you Uncle Leo...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťGive you big sis,don't have a answer. Wish I had an answer
OdpovedaťOdstrániťDear Jenny, it isn't easy to find a right answer...I think, Mark wrote it very precisely:..."So take care of yourself, Viera, we may be our best nurse in these things..." I fully agree with him...
OdpovedaťOdstrániťThank you for your visit and thoughts ...